Never fellowship with offended people. When people become offended, they surround themselves with as many people as possible who will take on their offense. They want others to be offended at their offender. They draw others who also harbor grudges and negative emotions. They will always have someone to complain to who will "understand", sympathize with them. They take their negative emotions and offenses into other situations. They cause disharmony among friends, married couples, co-workers on the job. They don’t deal with the offense. Instead they go through life expecting to be offended. This draws hostile, antagonistic people to them.
Right about now you might be saying, "Well, I know So-and-so has a chip … but if I hang around him … some of my positive influence will rub off. I won’t take on his negativity." This attitude is not scriptural. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 15:33, "Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character’ ".
"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm" (Proverbs 13:20). This has nothing to do with helping people. And you do need to walk in love toward a person carrying a grudge. They need to see the love of God demonstrated. But you are not to become a close friend with that kind of a person. The environment you live will strongly influence what you eventually become. Associations affect you for good — or for evil. Whatever you fellowship with … you will have a relationship with. Negative atmospheres produce negatives. Positive environments produce positives.
Submitted 3/24/2009 3:28:32 PM | Author: Rose Leibundguth